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An INFJ's view of relationship with INTPs and how to work with them..
INFJ's can sense someone else's feelings ( an unnerving situation if you don't know how to separate your own feelings from the other person ).
...INFJ's are extremely gentle,have very high integrity, cannot tell a really good lie , and do not carry long term personal conflicts well.
...INFJ's are extremely gentle,have very high integrity, cannot tell a really good lie , and do not carry long term personal conflicts well.
By Anonymous (by author request.)
The Bad Side...
1. Extremely puzzling... INFJ's can sense someone else's feelings ( an unnerving situation if you don't know how to separate your own feelings from the other person ). INTP's have famously melancholic faces/ not much emotion there. INFJ's can sense the love but cannot see it most of the time except in small bursts.
2. Hypersensitive INFJ's then take the "snub" personally and start withdrawing or worse, demanding more time and emotion from INTP. Uh oh....... its' the beginning of the end.
3. Of course this absolutely annoys the INTP who in turn, true to type, does not express the annoyance. Which is also counterproductive, because the INFJ can sense the annoyance... Rift gets worse. But it's a silent war. Hmmmm......
4. More developed INFJ's start to withraw... , emotionally and sometimes physically. A protective mechanism, need space to sort out feelings and if more emotionally mature, plan their next move. INFJ's are extremely gentle,have very high integrity, cannot tell a really good lie , and do not carry long term personal conflicts well. The process of emotional "detachment" is very hard and can scar the INFJ for a long time.
The Good side...
5. INFJ's like INTP's because INFJ's themselves, need space, are also independent and intelligent and have great imaginations. Great match!!
6. INFJ's can supply support, unconditional love , empathy, and can anticipate needs of INTP even before this is articulated. A spooky sort of unspoken communication between the two.
7. But, INFJ's need the same support, love , empathy back from INTP's in order to remain happy. It's like gasoline to INFJ's A situation which the INTP cannot comprehend.
Bottomline is this... a happy and well loved INFJ will keep you well supplied with everything you want. An unhappy one will drive you nuts!!
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Oh dear, I'm turning into Jashen, aren't I?
Edit: When I posted this, I wasn't even aware that Jorge was INTP, though it sounded like a pretty good description of some of our interactions. But I just noticed that he is. :P
The Bad Side...
1. Extremely puzzling... INFJ's can sense someone else's feelings ( an unnerving situation if you don't know how to separate your own feelings from the other person ). INTP's have famously melancholic faces/ not much emotion there. INFJ's can sense the love but cannot see it most of the time except in small bursts.
2. Hypersensitive INFJ's then take the "snub" personally and start withdrawing or worse, demanding more time and emotion from INTP. Uh oh....... its' the beginning of the end.
3. Of course this absolutely annoys the INTP who in turn, true to type, does not express the annoyance. Which is also counterproductive, because the INFJ can sense the annoyance... Rift gets worse. But it's a silent war. Hmmmm......
4. More developed INFJ's start to withraw... , emotionally and sometimes physically. A protective mechanism, need space to sort out feelings and if more emotionally mature, plan their next move. INFJ's are extremely gentle,have very high integrity, cannot tell a really good lie , and do not carry long term personal conflicts well. The process of emotional "detachment" is very hard and can scar the INFJ for a long time.
The Good side...
5. INFJ's like INTP's because INFJ's themselves, need space, are also independent and intelligent and have great imaginations. Great match!!
6. INFJ's can supply support, unconditional love , empathy, and can anticipate needs of INTP even before this is articulated. A spooky sort of unspoken communication between the two.
7. But, INFJ's need the same support, love , empathy back from INTP's in order to remain happy. It's like gasoline to INFJ's A situation which the INTP cannot comprehend.
Bottomline is this... a happy and well loved INFJ will keep you well supplied with everything you want. An unhappy one will drive you nuts!!
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Oh dear, I'm turning into Jashen, aren't I?
Edit: When I posted this, I wasn't even aware that Jorge was INTP, though it sounded like a pretty good description of some of our interactions. But I just noticed that he is. :P
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